Attracting Your Dream Partner, Part 1

To be honest, I don’t really know where to start this blog post.  I have 1000 ideas running through my mind, so I’ll just start with my own experience.  Throughout my life, I have been in many relationships with people who were not compatible with me.  This is largely accredited to me not knowing who I am or what I was looking for in a partner.  Seeking validation from men, trying to learn what parts of me I wanted to cultivate into more, and learning what ABSOLUTELY was not for me was a years-long process.  

It has come down to the last year that I realized where I want to be and how to get there.  I worked on myself, who I am and who I want to be and then allowed a partner to come in to push me to heights I didn’t know existed.  

Everyone says “it’ll happen when you least expect it” or “just work on yourself, the right man will come along!” and while this is true, I truly believe that forming these meaningful relationships comes with learning how to find someone who is right for you (and truthfully knowing what you deserve). 

This blog post is not about dating advice (of which I have tons… I’d love to share with those interested) but it is about how to brand yourself in the dating pool to find the right match.  

1 – define what you want in a partner –  This sounds SO SILLY but after a huge big bad break up last year, I wrote down a physical list on a piece of paper all of the qualities I was looking for in my future husband.  Having a clear idea of your target audience will help the branding process.  I call this my “husband list”.

2- define your own values and positive attributes – In the notebook I wrote down my future husband’s qualities, the very next page is what I have to offer a partner.  I did not craft these values out of thin air, but did relate back to my husband list to choose complimentary qualities that are already things I know to be true about myself and feel proud of.  

With this list, I was able to confidently go into every first date knowing who I am and what I have to offer the world and this person.  Crafting a story for myself and how I want to be perceived gave me an honest backing and understanding of if I was compatible with the men I was dating or not. 

This truly lead to being able to decide, upon first meeting, if I wanted to continue to see a man or not (really, I knew within the first 15 minutes). It made for such concise decisions, and saved myself and the men I was dating so much time.

If you’ve read any other piece of content on my website, you know that this is what branding is about.  NOT making yourself out to be someone new, but knowing how you are special and using it to your advantage.  Personally and professionally, this can help you in ways that you never knew existed, and I can help find what those things are and attract your dream partner.  

As I’m writing this, I know it will have to be a series of blogs. I’ll see you all in the next one 😉